Understanding Your Inner Guardians
This blog delves deeper into the concept of guardians within our hearts, building on the understanding of fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses.
Unmasking Your Protectors:
We've learned that guardians can manifest in various ways, often stemming from past experiences. Here's how they might show up:
Emotional Numbing: Guardians might shut down emotions to avoid pain.
Spiritual Bypass: They may rely heavily on religion to dismiss problems.
Self-Destructive Behaviors: Anger may be directed inward (self-harm) or outward (aggression).
Obsessive Habits: Repetitive actions can distract from emotional turmoil.
Addiction: Substances or activities offer a temporary escape from pain.
Self-Loathing: Negative emotions can trigger self-hatred.
Distraction: Constant busyness keeps uncomfortable feelings at bay.
Excessive Talking: A constant monologue leaves no room for introspection.
Humor as a Shield: Jokes deflect serious conversations.
Self-Doubt: Second-guessing hinders progress.
Remember, these are just some examples. Your guardian's tactics might differ.
The Path to Healing:
Acceptance and self-love are crucial for healing. Here's how to cultivate them:
Dig Deep: Be honest with yourself about your emotions and the ways your guardians manifest.
Love Yourself: Recognize that your guardians, though flawed, protected you in the past.
Embrace Imperfection: Accepting your current state empowers growth.
The Power of Love:
The scripture (Mark 12:28-31) reminds us of love's importance. Jesus emphasizes loving God and oneself. This self-acceptance allows us to accept others.
Just like Jesus, who loved us unconditionally, God offers his love and acceptance. This divine love can help unify our hearts and guide us towards healthier coping mechanisms.
